An Introduction: Elle

Why a Betrayed Wives Club?
Elle

I created this blog because I not only survived, but triumphed over my husband's infidelity. And I believe you can, too.

But first, you're going to go through hell – and it helps to have some girlfriends to hold your hand while you're doing it. To offer up their hard-won wisdom. To allow you to vent. To be there while you cry, rage, lament and, ultimately, laugh again.

Join the club and join the conversation.

Elle, how do I love you? Let me count the ways -

For your emotional intelligence, your kindness, your empathy and compassion. For your humor, and insight, and silliness.

For your concrete advice on what to do immediately after finding out about the betrayal. And what to do over time.

For being the only person I found who wrote intelligently about hysterical bonding.

For describing why sometimes I feel crazy - because infidelity is trauma. And for your practical suggestions on how to process that trauma.

For clarifying what not to believe and what not to do (and what else not to do). And the crucial truth of affairs.

For your thoughts on how to approach each moment, how to live with confusion and indecision and uncertainty and a new narrative of my marriage.

For your insights on what to ask, what will and won't change, how to approach long-term decisions.

For preparing me for what I should expect should I decide to stay with Drew.

For explaining to me what Drew was thinking. For explaining to Drew why I need him to listen. For explaining to me, to him, and to others how it is possible to love a cheater.

For teaching me what forgiveness really is - and who it is really for.

For inspiring me to start my own blog - because I needed to tell my own story.

For helping me heal.

Thank you.